So you might ask where I have been lately, huh? By the way, that was my vanity only, there is so much posts in the web, and myself could be the only reader of this, but who cares?
My life has been chaotic lately, I don't even know how to bring it back to it normal state and speed, to the seemingly - easy - to - live - on ones like my mother's, my aunts, my grandma's, my colleagues'... What is was that made them so much different? I heard some laughing, it looks like that you don't believe me! Well please look at my daily chores then judge me later. As a working woman doing part time study, my days are totally occupied by working & being in class, then when getting home - it is already 8h50 PM, I just tried to fill my stomatch with some take-outs, then relaxe for a little while with some TVs (you hear it: TV, not even music or a DVD) and check my list of interesting blogs and news, have a quick shower before going to bed, then before we know it, another crazy day begins...
Of course, we all know girls that we have house chores awaiting to be finished, we have responsibilities as a woman to society and family, where can we find that precious extra time?
I don't know about you or your loved ones, but for me, I also want to go out, to do shopping, have a facial or haircut sometimes, to see movies for a lazy night in the city, or at least lay down with a new book and finish it without guilts of not doing homework, or not being to wake up in time the next day... And I try as much as possible to sneak out of the city during some free weekends...
Hey, I have not mentioned friends' visits - which I love, by the way, as I often used them as a valid reason to skip my normal days' duties (if there ever was such things) - or Vietnamese pratices of attend or pay visits to relatives, weddings, new born child's, social gatherings at beer garden, friends grouping for coffees, lunches or dinners. And you know that now that is YOU will go (instead of your parents) and pay all the bills (electricial, telephone, water) at the government offices and God - knows - what will pop up in your days...
Frankly, I don't feel like I am living my life anymore, and just like the one runs really hard to keep up with it! I look around myself and find my girlfriends in a very similar situation. We don't have time or to be precise, we don't have the luxury to spend time doing our energy boost or without thinking what we really should have done. How can our mothers having us in those difficult time, working, doing much more those social & family responsibilities, feeding us, and could still be there, calm and listen when we open our eyes? What REALLY went wrong in the young modern working woman's life? Does it really require a superwoman to live that life?
...
I came to the new office one day with my shirt was a little creased (ironing is not my specialty and it is even worse when I'm getting late), a secretary at work asked me about it - a bit embarrassed, I explained to her about my time running out everyday and to my surprise, she told me about her home and life. It turned out, she her newlywed husband stayed very far from work (and still got in earlier than me), everyday she cooks lunch and dinner for both, cleaning house, learning English, doing their laundry (by hand), manage to watch the news on TV, helping her husband to relaxe (???), ironing for both, and then go to sleep.
In another words, she tried to tell me that I just over complained, as we - women - were assigned to do those, and perhaps, I was asking too much for myself.
She really got me thinking for a while, is that true that it is destined for every woman to finish all the work? Did I have my priorities wrong? When we learn about ourselves some more then we loose a little bit the ability to understand and sacrifice?
I am still confused about all these, but for sure, I just wish a day having 28 hours... fow now!
Sunday, September 10, 2006
Monday, July 31, 2006
Unblocking!
Hello World,
I am so happy to be back to Blogger's world! Finally my ISP has released this page! I gave up finding a way to update it a long while ago, just now that I felt pissed off by Yahoo performance and take a look at Blogger.Com, I am IN!
The dating game is on. See you soon!
I am so happy to be back to Blogger's world! Finally my ISP has released this page! I gave up finding a way to update it a long while ago, just now that I felt pissed off by Yahoo performance and take a look at Blogger.Com, I am IN!
The dating game is on. See you soon!
Saturday, March 25, 2006
This page is not available
Or, in other words, we currently block it, Interner surfer! We think about your safety and the might-be-naughty factors in you, we want to protect you from the bad influences, that is why this page is blocked. You see how much we have done for you, we have to stop the bad sources touching your eyes? You complain, huh? You see, sometimes, we have to act against your will for your own good, everything has a side effect, while we are blocking you from the bad influence, some good ones are blocked too, but we thought about that, and we know, we'd rather be the one who is blamed than letting you go attained the bad stuff! (sight, and continue on consoling...)
Now, look at countries where information goes out of control, look at their crime rates, their suicides numbers, their social sickness, do you feel better in the cozy net that we choose for you?
Do I hear some laughing around, be careful as we are watching you! B-)
F.Y.I. Many homepages, Yahoo Groups, and BlogSpot.Com are currently blocked by my ISP provider. If you think that you are old enough and can take responsibility for your actions, you're wrong, under my roof, play by my rules!
Now, look at countries where information goes out of control, look at their crime rates, their suicides numbers, their social sickness, do you feel better in the cozy net that we choose for you?
Do I hear some laughing around, be careful as we are watching you! B-)
F.Y.I. Many homepages, Yahoo Groups, and BlogSpot.Com are currently blocked by my ISP provider. If you think that you are old enough and can take responsibility for your actions, you're wrong, under my roof, play by my rules!
Tuesday, March 14, 2006
Knight & Fight
Have we read from our childhood that a beautiful princess is waiting in the castle for a handsome knight to rescue one day? Have most of the girls while growing up defined for themselves a prince charming going together to the ball? That's the burning question, do we need a knight to come to rescue or to be rescued?
In the reality, this electronic society requires each of us to survive on our own, whoever you are! The search for a knight can turn into a nightmare.
A lady friend of mine, H. 29 year-old, good career, cute, open, sharp, is constantly looking for a man who would care, and stand up for her, who would not mind her career success, "Finding someone who understands, loves and accept who you are, that does not care about your educational degree or social position!" Does this sound simple to do so? Then you are never been in dating game.
Have we all be raised with thought, a woman without her man is an empty spot? According to the past, woman place is next to the oven, where they look after their family through each meals, clean cloth and raise their children until the day they realize that only men have "brain". And now that woman working and bring home food, and society teaches us the equality and freedom for woman, should we become man, be treated like man? Do we still need a prince charming for the sake of our soul?
I remember once in Vung Tau, we were a group of professional people together having coffee in a small shop next to the beach. By co-incidence, I was the only person who worked with databases, Oracle, and all the related things to system analysis and design, and also the only one girl in the group. One guy popped up a technical question of my expertise, and of course, I was assigned to answer. After getting information, exchanging ideas, feedbacks and it should have been going well if, I was not technically correct. Turned back to the group, and he said "You could never win by argueing with a woman!", and everyone ended in laughters. I was shocked to the core, as the same time, I was badly treated as a professional and as a woman. Should we girls never to give technical advise, if we do not want to be treated as a noisy girl loving arguing? Shoud we girls be upset in this case, so that we prove him right, that you should never argue with a woman?
It is certain that my case is not only instance that happened. If we go each step from every mind of working gals, we could find much more embarassing moments than that!
You like to have a man when he helps you carrying a big box upstair, and now that when you have an opinion, are you entitled to have an open discussion without a lame excuse that we don't want to argue with a woman - since you are correct?
Where is the thin line between gentleman behaviour and the attitude of disregard you as an equal partner? Why girls always have to choose, whether to protect their feminine site or at the same time their professional entity? Some use to their advantages but the rest go to extreme.
Are we really from different planet? Or am I just paranoid?
The knight is your gentleman, or the bastard forces you work day and night?
The whole world is moving forward but there is still a question proposed the discussion of woman and her role in a modern society. Can we talk about man now?
Sai Gon 20.Nov.2005
In the reality, this electronic society requires each of us to survive on our own, whoever you are! The search for a knight can turn into a nightmare.
A lady friend of mine, H. 29 year-old, good career, cute, open, sharp, is constantly looking for a man who would care, and stand up for her, who would not mind her career success, "Finding someone who understands, loves and accept who you are, that does not care about your educational degree or social position!" Does this sound simple to do so? Then you are never been in dating game.
Have we all be raised with thought, a woman without her man is an empty spot? According to the past, woman place is next to the oven, where they look after their family through each meals, clean cloth and raise their children until the day they realize that only men have "brain". And now that woman working and bring home food, and society teaches us the equality and freedom for woman, should we become man, be treated like man? Do we still need a prince charming for the sake of our soul?
I remember once in Vung Tau, we were a group of professional people together having coffee in a small shop next to the beach. By co-incidence, I was the only person who worked with databases, Oracle, and all the related things to system analysis and design, and also the only one girl in the group. One guy popped up a technical question of my expertise, and of course, I was assigned to answer. After getting information, exchanging ideas, feedbacks and it should have been going well if, I was not technically correct. Turned back to the group, and he said "You could never win by argueing with a woman!", and everyone ended in laughters. I was shocked to the core, as the same time, I was badly treated as a professional and as a woman. Should we girls never to give technical advise, if we do not want to be treated as a noisy girl loving arguing? Shoud we girls be upset in this case, so that we prove him right, that you should never argue with a woman?
It is certain that my case is not only instance that happened. If we go each step from every mind of working gals, we could find much more embarassing moments than that!
You like to have a man when he helps you carrying a big box upstair, and now that when you have an opinion, are you entitled to have an open discussion without a lame excuse that we don't want to argue with a woman - since you are correct?
Where is the thin line between gentleman behaviour and the attitude of disregard you as an equal partner? Why girls always have to choose, whether to protect their feminine site or at the same time their professional entity? Some use to their advantages but the rest go to extreme.
Are we really from different planet? Or am I just paranoid?
The knight is your gentleman, or the bastard forces you work day and night?
The whole world is moving forward but there is still a question proposed the discussion of woman and her role in a modern society. Can we talk about man now?
Sai Gon 20.Nov.2005
Saturday, March 11, 2006
New Kids On The Blog
First, I would like to put everything in this blog, my life, things that we want to start, then , it comes to the question, what is for? I can not merge everything at once, and of course, can not do everything by myself.
Especially when my poohbear told me about, increasing the size of the good thing that we tried as individuals to a bigger size, and for the people who need. Then it clear to me that I need to keep all these, for the people we know, for the future...
It is still small, and just started, but we hope to make it useful for those who'd like to make a good deed, or want to share with us, your difficulties if we could help!
We put the information about the little thing we tried to do to make a difference, about the hearts of gold of the people we know, about all the good stuff we've seen under the little thing website, and try to form a place to share the our stories, our life in the Home-roasted Coffee Ground website. Check them out and please give us your feedbacks!
And this VietBloom is saved for our friends', our friends' friends', and our related experiences, stories, news, information for Vietnam...
Well it takes me the whole day to move data, repost, remove, register, and conclusion, same as moving house, moving your pages is also not interesting as starting something brand-new!
Especially when my poohbear told me about, increasing the size of the good thing that we tried as individuals to a bigger size, and for the people who need. Then it clear to me that I need to keep all these, for the people we know, for the future...
It is still small, and just started, but we hope to make it useful for those who'd like to make a good deed, or want to share with us, your difficulties if we could help!
We put the information about the little thing we tried to do to make a difference, about the hearts of gold of the people we know, about all the good stuff we've seen under the little thing website, and try to form a place to share the our stories, our life in the Home-roasted Coffee Ground website. Check them out and please give us your feedbacks!
And this VietBloom is saved for our friends', our friends' friends', and our related experiences, stories, news, information for Vietnam...
Well it takes me the whole day to move data, repost, remove, register, and conclusion, same as moving house, moving your pages is also not interesting as starting something brand-new!
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