Have we read from our childhood that a beautiful princess is waiting in the castle for a handsome knight to rescue one day? Have most of the girls while growing up defined for themselves a prince charming going together to the ball? That's the burning question, do we need a knight to come to rescue or to be rescued?
In the reality, this electronic society requires each of us to survive on our own, whoever you are! The search for a knight can turn into a nightmare.
A lady friend of mine, H. 29 year-old, good career, cute, open, sharp, is constantly looking for a man who would care, and stand up for her, who would not mind her career success, "Finding someone who understands, loves and accept who you are, that does not care about your educational degree or social position!" Does this sound simple to do so? Then you are never been in dating game.
Have we all be raised with thought, a woman without her man is an empty spot? According to the past, woman place is next to the oven, where they look after their family through each meals, clean cloth and raise their children until the day they realize that only men have "brain". And now that woman working and bring home food, and society teaches us the equality and freedom for woman, should we become man, be treated like man? Do we still need a prince charming for the sake of our soul?
I remember once in Vung Tau, we were a group of professional people together having coffee in a small shop next to the beach. By co-incidence, I was the only person who worked with databases, Oracle, and all the related things to system analysis and design, and also the only one girl in the group. One guy popped up a technical question of my expertise, and of course, I was assigned to answer. After getting information, exchanging ideas, feedbacks and it should have been going well if, I was not technically correct. Turned back to the group, and he said "You could never win by argueing with a woman!", and everyone ended in laughters. I was shocked to the core, as the same time, I was badly treated as a professional and as a woman. Should we girls never to give technical advise, if we do not want to be treated as a noisy girl loving arguing? Shoud we girls be upset in this case, so that we prove him right, that you should never argue with a woman?
It is certain that my case is not only instance that happened. If we go each step from every mind of working gals, we could find much more embarassing moments than that!
You like to have a man when he helps you carrying a big box upstair, and now that when you have an opinion, are you entitled to have an open discussion without a lame excuse that we don't want to argue with a woman - since you are correct?
Where is the thin line between gentleman behaviour and the attitude of disregard you as an equal partner? Why girls always have to choose, whether to protect their feminine site or at the same time their professional entity? Some use to their advantages but the rest go to extreme.
Are we really from different planet? Or am I just paranoid?
The knight is your gentleman, or the bastard forces you work day and night?
The whole world is moving forward but there is still a question proposed the discussion of woman and her role in a modern society. Can we talk about man now?
Sai Gon 20.Nov.2005